One of the things that can keep you stuck on a girl is buying into what she says instead of strictly judging the situation by her actions. Her words are a great weapon in her arsenal. The reason her words are effective in keeping you hooked is that her words mean much more to you than they do to her.
When she says “I miss you”, this is most likely true. But that doesn’t mean she wants to get back together with you, sleep with you, or even see you. She is just throwing out a simple statement reflecting that a small part of her does indeed miss you in some way. She says this to connect with you for a brief moment to momentarily experience what you previously shared.
The problem is that the words mean much more to you. When she says “I miss you” you believe there is hope of reconciliation. You think, “she misses me and wants to get back together with me”. You think you see an opening. In 99% of the cases, it is a dead end. Please don’t think your situation is in the other 1%.
You need to treat her words as a small part of the communication equation. I am sure you have heard that only a small fraction of communication is conveyed by the words spoken. You know of the importance of body language. Think of her actions as the body language of her communications with you. If she says she misses you and doesn’t want to make plans to see you, then she doesn’t miss you in a way that will lead to an ongoing romantic relationship with her.
Judge her by her actions and not her words and you will probably see that the relationship is over and that you must move on and invest your energy in other situations.
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